Jack or Joe?

Okay so I have told you about my "Uniqueness" theory (see Uniqueness Theory), and my uniqueness problem( I have this uncanny ability to see uniqueness where there isn't any). So now I pose the question. If you are going to have to wade waist high through sameness to find uniqueness, which is the better way to go. Knee jerk reaction would be to say Joe, but I am starting to wonder if that is really the case.

I have been privileged in my love life to not run into many Jacks. There might have been one or two in beginning, but I think I must have learned my lesson early on, because I tend to lean toward Joes nowadays. But I am starting to think I should rethink that little move. I can't help but wonder if a Jack isn't the better deal.

Nice guys always bitch that girls want a "bad boy." Well let me explain why. With a Jack, you know where you stand. If he isn't interested in you, he is going to be very upfront about the fact that he isn't going to waste his time with you (and nine times out of ten he isn't very nice about it). If he is just in it for sex, well you might know to begin with but by the third or fourth time you might have a clue. You don't have wonder with a Jack whether he is going to remember your birthday or anniversary because he won't (unless it will get him something he wants). You always know that if you want to do something with him, you will be doing what he wants to do (no worry about having to come up with something fun or interesting). Jack is aware of the messages they send women, by what they say and how they act, and they make sure that they are making us aware of the situation. Jack is always just going to tell you how it is (from his point of view), and as far as he is concerned, that is that.

Joes on the other hand, worry. He worries about what we (women) think, he wonders how we will react, he worries if he has made us, or will make us cry. Joe makes an attempt to be interested in you and the things you do. Now these all sound like good things, but a Joe will just talk for talks sake. He is unaware of the signals he sends, and ulitmately he is fence sitter. He doesn't want to hurt your feeling by saying he isn't interested, but he isn't committed enough to say yes to anything either. So in the end you can never be quite sure where you stand with Joe.

So what is more appealing: knowing where you stand with someone and if he isn't interested then you know, and if he is an ass about it, then he has just given you a reason to hate him on top of everything else making that much easier, or would rather wonder cause this guy your interested in might or might not be sending signals your way, and if isn't interested he is too afraid to come right out and say stop flirting with me, I am not interested, so you just keep wondering if he going to make a move or not.

Personally, I hate being jerked around, but I am not sure I can handle a whole lot of cruel rejection either. So I guess the jury is still out for me, but you probably have an idea to which way I am leaning.